Parenting Series: The Perfectly Imperfect Child

By Monday, September 24, 2018 6 , , , , Permalink 1

Hey Dolls! I wanted to be a little more transparent on this blog post. My daughter has been diagnosed with having A.D.H.D (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). You might be wondering what is A.D.H.D. Let me explain, according to The National Institute of Mental Health  A.D.H.D symptoms “can appear as early as between the ages of 3 and 6 and can continue through adolescence and adulthood.” “Symptoms of ADHD can be mistaken for emotional or disciplinary problems or missed entirely in quiet, well-behaved children, leading to a delay in diagnosis.” “Adults with undiagnosed ADHD may have a history of poor academic performance, problems at work, or difficult or failed relationships.” “ADHD symptoms can change over time as a person ages.”

This has not been an easy journey. I have struggled so many times on how to handle it. I have finally concluded that as time moves on, this situation gets better. I am learning how to handle it and so is my daughter. I started to realize that progress is what I needed to focus on and not the right now.

It all started when her therapist suggested that I join a Facebook support group, which I thought was a good idea as well. Until…a mom posted in the group, abut receiving government assistance and asked if the other mothers have been through the process. Another mother jumped in, judged this mother, and said, “It was an unnecessary and she did not understand why people do it.” This infuriated me! I quickly jumped to the aid of the other that posted the question and in a very nice professional way, told the other mother to back off! I thought she had some nerve to come for the other mom just because she does not see the need for it assistance.


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This made me realize something about myself. I really need to be thankful that I am in the situation I am in. I am at home with my daughter, working with her on how to handle herself. Her therapist is working closely with my family and I to get her prepared for school in a few weeks. She has made so much progress in the last few months! I did not realize this until her therapist pointed this out. I was just at the point where I was thinking I am still fussing a lot, she is still not listening well and I still have to stay on her about everything.

It is human nature not to focus on the progress but focus on how we want it and why it is not like that right now! Sometimes it is best to give our energy to the small steps because these are very important to the overall outcome. The small accomplishments, in my opinion, should be celebrated as well. If we do not, it is hard to be grateful for the result. I have to celebrate the small goals and well as the large ones when it comes to my daughter and other areas of my life. Life lesson learned!

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Michelle is an aspiring nursing student hoping to make this happen in the fall. She is a wife and a mother to two (2) beautiful kids a boy and a girl. When she is not caring for her beautiful children. She is also a part-time Beauty Blogger that loves to highlight products that are brown girl friendly. To learn more about Michelle, please visit her blog at & Follow at Twitter; FacebookInstagram; & YouTube.

  • Lauren
    September 26, 2018

    Good for you for focusing on progress. I think that is important for any life struggle! And for standing up for that mom in the group. People really need to mind their business. If you don’t agree with something that’s okay but it doesn’t make your opinion the RIGHT one.


  • Sara |
    September 27, 2018

    I love how you say:

    “Sometimes it is best to give our energy to the small steps”

    This is good life advice in general! It’s so easy to lose track of your progress and not recognize how far things have come. Little by little we go a long way, but it’s so important we recognize and celebrate that!

    Baby steps are wonderful ♡.

  • Tay
    September 27, 2018

    Awesome read! My daughter was recently was diagnosed and this is a great portrayal of how I had to gather my thoughts for the sake of our sanity!🙌🏽

  • Our Chaotic Mess
    October 2, 2018

    Great post! I agree that both small and big goals & accomplishments should be celebrated, especially with children. Good luck on your journey!

    Lena //

  • Stacey
    October 4, 2018

    Some people irritate me so much! Support groups are for support being negative doesn’t do anything for anyone. And you’re right remember that progress is what matters. It may be rough right now but you will wake up one day and how far you have come will just hit you.

  • Woodeline
    October 4, 2018

    Such a great post. I like you said; you should celebrate your small achievements.

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